First Lieutenant Benjamin White, 26, is a Korean adoptee commissioned in the US Army and stationed back in his birth country of Korea. He’s also gay. Listen to his story as he talks about navigating all of these identities as a military officer and as en ethnic Korean, trying to build ties with other Koreans in a country where society does not easily embrace everything about him. 

Chinese adoptee Grace Newton, 26, shares her story of coming of age and learning about international adoption as a social, political and industrial practice. An only child, Newton shared a close relationship with her parents, but delving into the history of transnational and transracial adoption created some challenging discussions. Her curiosity and desire to uncover truths have taken her back to China several times, each time imparting new perspectives. Newton has regularly shared her sharp and critical commentary and as a leader within the adoptee community. 

Warning: This episode contains references to sexual assault within family or kinship.

Korean adoptee and Canadian Jenny Heijun Wills, 39, talks about her 2019 acclaimed memoir, Older Sister. Not Necessarily Related. It’s about her relationships with her first family after being reunited in a form of a letter to an older biological half-sister, separated by time, language, boundaries, child removal and international closed adoption. and parental failings. The book also bravely addresses inter-adoptee harm, ways marginalized communities protect and hide sexual assault amongst their own kin, and the fears that come with breaking that code.  

Wills also discusses the vulnerability and emotional labor adoptees must endure when returning to Korea to search for family or to connect with their roots, and the way the search process and international adoption strips adoptees from support or personal agency, when trying to retrace and uncover their journey, kin and identities.

Daniel Jeremiah Persson, 27, was adopted from Korea at age two to white parents in Sweden and grew up in the countryside where he faced bullies and racism. It wasn’t until he left to attend dance school in London when he found his voice to express himself through words and movement. When he went to Korea to explore his ethnic roots, Persson both found joy and disappointment. Utlimately, discovering his own connections to Korea helped him look at his Swedish life with fresh eyes. 

Photo credit: Patrick Danerhag

American Rachel Rostad, 26, is a Korean adoptee who reunited with her biological family only to find that her eomma was suffering from a chronic illness that only added more questions than answered any. But while she would come to feel a sense of belonging with her Korean family, her belonging in Korea was another matter. 

Audio available September 14, 8:00 am CST (US).

“Silla” appears courtesy of Rachel Rostad.

An excerpt from “The Return” documentary fiction hybrid film by Malene Choi appears under fair use.

Shaun Seo, 33, is an Australian Korean adoptee whose childhood was marked with multiple tragedies. Living with his family as expats in Papua New Guinea and Fiji, he also was thrown into the politics of poverty and privilege at a young age. But a family rupture changed Seo’s life yet again and sent him back to the Australian countryside and its racially white homogeneity. Seo recently attended the IKAA Gathering in 2019 and found community with other adoptees, especially others from Australia. This is his story. 

Audio available 8/31/20 at 12:00 p.m. EST
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